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Tanya: Okay. Welcome to another episode of the momentum, podcast the show dedicated to inspiring, uplifting, and empowering women on their journey through motherhood. I'm your host, Tanya Valentine. And today Nikki Morris is back for round 2 of teaching us all how we can organize our lives. Nikki. Thank you so much for coming back, and I'm excited to get to learn again from you today.

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Nicole Morris: Awesome. Thank you for having me.

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Tanya: Yes, tell us all about

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Tanya: all the organizing things, all of your wisdom that you have to share.

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Nicole Morris: Okay, so

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Nicole Morris: first off, I want to say that I had come across a quote, and it said, for every minute spent in organizing an hour and is earned

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Nicole Morris: and I just think it's super important to have that in the back of your mind, because sometimes people think being organized is like a type, a personality, and you have to be this certain person to do it. But the reality is, there's like benefits from it, you know.

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Tanya: totally. And yeah, Dale, it was Dale Carnegie. This is something that I always come back to, too, and it's like along the same lines. Dale, Carnegie said. An hour of time spent planning gives you 10 h back.

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Nicole Morris: Right?

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Nicole Morris: Yeah. So there's like, pay off to the craziness.

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Tanya: Yeah, yeah, definitely, it's like, and it's an investment that pays off exponentially

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Nicole Morris: correct.

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Nicole Morris: Yeah, okay, go ahead.

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Nicole Morris: I think I'll start by this app, that is available for download. And it's called soon SOON,

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Nicole Morris: it's basically an app that once you open it up, there's all these categories, podcast places, hotels, movies.

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Nicole Morris: TV series, music stores, books, restaurants. Right? So I come across things. And I usually make notes pages on my phone. But it gets like loud and in my face and disorganized, and

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Nicole Morris: I just don't like the way it flows.

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Nicole Morris: So this app, instead of me making the notes page. I go on the app, and it's categorized. So it's all the things that you want to do soon.

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Nicole Morris: Go to soon watch soon read soon. And then, so you add them to the list right? And then, once you've completed it, or gone there, or read it, or

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Nicole Morris: you know visited that place. You hit done

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Nicole Morris: so. The cool thing is, someone's like, Hey, what's a good book you read.

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Nicole Morris: and I just go to my soon app and I go to my done list. And I say, Oh, this was a great one, or it's in my zoom where, like, maybe you tell me a book that

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Nicole Morris: you liked, and I, instead of putting it in like this loud notes page, or write it down on a piece of paper and obviously lose it. It just goes into this app. So I'm like, Oh, I'm ready to read another book. Let me pick one from my like. I want to read zoom, so it's it's an app that I don't know. It works for me, and it keeps me

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Nicole Morris: organize with future things that I want to do, and it also keeps things organized for the things that I have done. If that makes sense. So it's kind of like, really, library.

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Tanya: Yeah, I like that. That's a really clever idea. And is that is that a free app, or oh, I'm gonna

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Nicole Morris: Cassie had told me about it because she's like, I can't believe you're still like over here, writing notes, pages in your office like Super Techy worked for Google. She always has, like all the

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Nicole Morris: new things. She's the one that introduced me to Google drive, which is what I'm gonna go into next. But she always just left every time I'm around her. She just laughs at me, cause she like teaches me something

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Nicole Morris: knew about like organization stuff that I can simply do on my phone because she knows how organized I mentioned just lasted some of my old school methods. So like I'm slowly evolving, and the soon app is one like that I absolutely love. And I especially if you're a reader. Because you can then, like, follow friends on it.

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Tanya: and like, I can see, like the stuff that you've done, or and you can rate the books, things like that. I don't know. It's it's really cool, so you can download it. And then you can like, invite people to it. Oh, I'm definitely doing this?

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Nicole Morris: Yeah, it's it's really neat, because it's like so organized and like mindless for someone to start instead of like feeling overwhelmed on like how to start getting lists going or seeing seeing things like on paper. It yeah, kind of just dump into it. And then it like results like a list of what you want to do soon, and then keeps things once you've done them

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Nicole Morris: so like it's also a reflection thing. I don't know. I love the app. I think it's great for all people, not just moms. But you know, you can also make your own categories. And to get to. However, you want?

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Nicole Morris: Okay? Yeah. So then, my next biggest thing, which is

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Nicole Morris: gosh, I would die without Google drive. I agree.

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Nicole Morris: I don't know what my life was before it. For anyone that doesn't know. It's free. I believe it's free up until you need like more storage. It's kind of like icloud type thing, you know, like, you buy more storage on the phone.

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Nicole Morris: But you basically start with like a blank canvas. And then you can create folders. So like for me.

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Nicole Morris: I'm running my life, and I manage a lot of my husband's life, and the kids lives and sports and all this stuff houses

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Nicole Morris: I need like a database to go to. That's like, always on my phone, because if I'm traveling or out and about, I hate if I can't have it at my fingertips. So Google drives like on my

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Nicole Morris: laptop on my phone, basically my phone when I take it with me, it says if my computer is there because all I have to do is log into the drive, right?

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Nicole Morris: So like, I can be anywhere without my computer, but still feel that my computer is with me, with all of like my brains in it.

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Nicole Morris: Yeah, so what I do is I literally create folders for everything. I don't even know how many folders are in my Google drive.

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Nicole Morris: But to start, there's one for each family member.

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Nicole Morris: so there'll be one with.

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Nicole Morris: you know. One is Raheem, one's Amaya, one's Jalen, one's Malia, one's Nicole.

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Nicole Morris: and then within each one of those are their own folders. So, for instance, Jalen's and you know the kids, actually, Raheem's. And I have it, too. What am I talking about? Birth, certificate.

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Nicole Morris: blood type.

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Nicole Morris: passport driver's license vaccine records. So you click into Nicole and then under that there'll be all these folders.

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Nicole Morris: What type? So open birth certificate? And there's a picture of my birth certificate, and the best thing is is you do it with your phone. So you just take a picture of your birth certificate and then you like upload it.

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Nicole Morris: Yeah, it's so simple. It's almost like a scanner. Yeah, but

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Nicole Morris: literally at like your fingertips with a phone. That's the so any where I am. If I need anything, it's all there. I mean, we have a tab for car insurance dental insurance health insurance. I have a house contacts tab where we have, like Handyman House cleaner electrician.

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Nicole Morris: you know, and that's for each house. So like we have a lake house, and then we have the house here in California. So I have those houses as their own folders.

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Nicole Morris: and then you go in and can find anything you need.

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Nicole Morris:  We have a tab for like addresses, one for banking life insurance policies, home insurance policies, taxes in tax folder is, you know, donations.

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Nicole Morris: tax payments made, estimates made

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Nicole Morris: receipts that can be written off. So

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Nicole Morris: like all I have to do is share that folder with my account. Here you go like at the end of the year, like, here's the here's the file. Here's like

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Nicole Morris: just snap pictures and throw it on. It's amazing because you can share with people. Right? So my husband has access to it.

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Nicole Morris: Yeah.

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Nicole Morris: I even have like a crazy folder called, if I die! Oh, my God!

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Nicole Morris: As far as me, like managing everyone's life! And and I had talked about like the surgery that I had to have a liver surgery, and I didn't know if I was gonna be down for

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Nicole Morris: a week or 2 months. I didn't know what was gonna happen and what life was gonna be. So I do have this if I dive, because

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Nicole Morris: I always tell my husband if I die, if I die, just go to the folder.

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Nicole Morris: and my cousin has access to it. She has access to it, because.

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Nicole Morris: like no one would know the passwords to all this stuff, or like how the bills are paid. And you know, the kids information like, you know.

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Nicole Morris: I just, I think as a mom.

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Nicole Morris: I never thought about it like before having kids. And then once you have kids, you're like, Oh, my gosh! If I die, what is my kids life going to be or like, who's gonna manage all the stuff that's like in my brain. Right? Oh, yeah, is Marvin as it sounds, there's an if I die folder.

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Nicole Morris: and it's basically just like the standard operating procedures.

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Nicole Morris: just everything. The kids schedules, their doctors, I mean, everything's in Google drive. But there is this folder that I am building out called, If I die, oh, that is so smart.

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Tanya: I think we could just do a podcast episode just on that like that is so smart.

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Nicole Morris: Yeah, I mean. it's crazy. But that Google drive is literally my life

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Nicole Morris: in files like, accessible on my

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Nicole Morris: phone.

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Tanya: Now, do you have? And I like the idea because it reduces the paper clutter. And then my next question was, Do you also keep the papers? Or once you take the picture, and it's in the Google drive holder. Then do you shred the papers.

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Nicole Morris: the tax stuff, anything that I keep in a folder? Their stuff gets shredded because I really don't need it. I do. That's all that birth certificates, passports, vaccine records. They're all kept in my like in a safe. But they are also electronically like. For instance, you sign the kid. The holidays are coming up right and sending the kids to like a nature account

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Nicole Morris: they asked for, like some some of the mass reverse certificates or vaccine records like.

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Nicole Morris: I don't have to sit and like worry to find where I have to go, find that it's literally in my Google drive. I just. And that saves you time. It's it's because it saves you time looking for things right? Correct. So everyone's always asking, how can you get this information so fast? Well, my Google drive? It's literally at my finger.

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Nicole Morris: Oh, so good! Take the folder, and as long as you have it organize. It's like super

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Nicole Morris: easy. It's not overwhelming because you're starting this from scratch. So like, however, your brain works is kind of how you set it up. So my brain worked for like each family member having their thing, you know. Yeah.

Nicole Morris:  So it it's helpful. It's super easy to use.

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Nicole Morris: and I feel like it's a tool that has changed my life. I love it. What I did without it.

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Tanya: Yeah, I agree. I agree. I started using it, too. And it it is very helpful. And it helps reduce the paper clutter and just everything that you're saying. Just it helps save time.

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Tanya: and you can

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Tanya: share the information easily with others.

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Tanya: Which is great. And I had.

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Nicole Morris: what's that for a company? It's great. Because, like, yeah. So I'm using it to run like a household. You know.

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Nicole Morris: our company. I'm starting like this personal project right now. And

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Nicole Morris: I just started a Google drive for that. So it's like

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Nicole Morris: Lllc information folder an ein folder a taxes folder, an expense folder.

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Nicole Morris: So even for a business like to get creative like, it's super organizing

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Nicole Morris: for all aspects of life. You could do anything with it. Workouts. Yeah, you know, no matter what your business platform is, it's useful. It doesn't just have to be. For like a mom, you know. Yeah, it's just a way of yeah organizing your ideas, your life into one place. And if you have it on your phone, which you're, gonna you can have it on your phone, you have it accessible to you wherever you are

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Nicole Morris: correct. If you're out traveling, you could log into

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Nicole Morris: any computer, you could log into your Google account. And then you go to your drive and like that computer that you happen to be on for that week while you're traveling, it virtually becomes your computer at home, even though you're not like around, you know.

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Tanya: Right? Right? And I had a question, too. Was just curious.

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Tanya: So do you declutter. The folders like do go in every so often and like archive things that you don't no longer need

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Nicole Morris: no cause anything that goes. I guess I can't say no, yes, so like if I have a house, you know, we used to live in Atlanta, so I used to have a house folder for Atlanta once we sold that house, and I didn't, and it was close out, and we were like done with that chapter. I did delete the folder cause there's really like, have it, you know.

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Nicole Morris: but I do also. Sometimes, you know, you get emails, and there's like attachments like a Pdf file, or whatever. Sometimes on the bottom of the email, you can just click the attachment and hit. Add to drive, and it'll just add to your folder, but it won't organize it. So then there's times where I add stuff, add stuff, and then, like.

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Nicole Morris: you know, I'll I'll log in and see a bunch of loose folders like hang in the bottom of my drive, not in the sub folders that I made, and then I just drop them where they need to be so. It's not something that you have to maintain like meticulously every day. You can just kind of drop things in there and then go back and like, organize them to the way that you want, or how your brand would want that in the folders, you know.

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Nicole Morris: Okay, Gotcha. But yeah, you can. You can add folders. You can do excel sheets like I have ex an expense.

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Nicole Morris: an expense one. I have one like. I could tell you exactly how much it cost for me to run my Lake House

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Nicole Morris: like each year because I they have a Google excel sheet. So I have under the Lake House tab. I have expenses, and then I have electric cable, you know, water, so I can put those totals in and then see what it is a month to run the house and what it is a year.

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Nicole Morris: So

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Nicole Morris: yeah, you can add and delete as you want

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Nicole Morris: customizable.

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Nicole Morris: and I love it. I can't say enough good about it. I I know this ended up being like an advertisement for Google. Oh, I mean, I just don't know like

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Nicole Morris: once you see it, and how easy it is

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Nicole Morris: it? It's free, right? Free. If you have a phone, yeah, it changes your life. I mean, people are always like, how do you have that on your phone? And I said, all you do is take a picture and upload it like I don't need to go home now, like, find the kids vaccine record. It's right here, you know.

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Nicole Morris: or dental record, or like any of this stuff.

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Tanya: So it's pretty smart.

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Nicole Morris: Yeah, so anyway, I love the zoom app. And I love the Google Drive App. And I think

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Nicole Morris: if anyone is trying to start somewhere to get a little bit more like function in their life organizing.

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Nicole Morris: you know, all different aspects without starting a paper trail. Go for these apps like.

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Tanya: yeah, clutter gets out of control like, I don't know about you like when especially when you have kids and they come home with

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Tanya: I mean, you can't put there, although you can. Actually, you know, what I have done is I have started to take pictures of some of the kids crafts and stuff that they put that they bring home. I take pictures of them instead of keeping them right. And then I can just save that in my phone, because, oh, the paper clutter it.

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Nicole Morris: But you could, you know, you could have like a Google folder that, says Lucia. And under there you could write artwork.

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Nicole Morris: And then artwork. That's where all your photos get dropped.

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Tanya: Yeah, that's beautiful.

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Nicole Morris: Yeah.

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Tanya: And you could even self categorize those to like the their ages right like artwork. And then

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Nicole Morris: team birth certificates, not necessarily under each individual person. I just works.

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Nicole Morris: I wanna know I need the birth certificate for Jalen. So my first brain

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Nicole Morris: wave to go to is Jalen. So then I picked.

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Nicole Morris: But I could have just done birth certificates and dumped us. But I separate because, you know, when they're older I can just share malia her folder.

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Tanya: Yeah, I like that. I like that. You just said. It's however, your brain works too like don't try and squeeze

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Nicole Morris: square into a circle or a circle into a square peg, right? Like, just make it work for you. Don't. Yeah. Don't like try to conform or be like someone. I, we're all right, and there's no right or wrong way. It's just whatever is right for you. Yeah. Because if you try and go outside of like your boundary that works for you. So for me, putting it into each individual's name.

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Nicole Morris: that if if you're gonna try and do that, but your brain doesn't flow that way. Then you're gonna be lost in like trying to find. Just go with how like the the direction that your brand would go. And oh, if I needed to find

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Nicole Morris: her birth certificate like, what would I? Where would I look for it first and then make the phone that way?

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Nicole Morris: Because that's why, as you're gonna just waste time trying to do something that works for someone but doesn't work. Nothing has to be perfect. It just has to be perfect for you, not for you know. Yeah, love it.

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Nicole Morris: And perfect is probably not the right word to use, because we're not going for perfection here. We're going for growth. But just, you know something that like works?

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Tanya: Yes, love it. Okay, alright. So we did Google, do you have anything else to talk about? Google drive or want to move on to the next thing. That was it. And then I think we're going to talk about a little bit of self care. I feel like, okay. You know, I sit here and I'm like.

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Nicole Morris: How about

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Nicole Morris: all my shit together with apps and organizing and stuff? But what

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Nicole Morris: I'll be honest about is self. Care

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Nicole Morris: is so important when you're like controlling and taking care and organizing all these other parts of your life. I find you know that I need to pour back into myself?

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Nicole Morris: And I think

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Nicole Morris: that a lot of people forget to do it, and they don't realize even just a little bit of self care can give so many benefits and carry you a long way.

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Tanya: I was just gonna share a couple

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Nicole Morris: things that I do some. I could do better, some I could do more, some I could get rid of, but just things that work. So maybe. Umhm, if you're looking to add some things. Maybe some of these would resonate with you.

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Nicole Morris: for one of the things I do is I schedule myself one day a week where I don't run errands so like today that day, like I'm home for the day. I'm not going grocery shopping.

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Nicole Morris: I'm not running to ups. I'm not going to target like

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Nicole Morris: I drop the kids off, and I'm in sweatpants for the day

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Nicole Morris: in the walls of my house, and I'm not leaving unless it's emergency.

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Nicole Morris: or until it's time to go get the kids.

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Nicole Morris: because I find I kind of get out and about. And I hit the grocery store, and then I drive by a home goods, or you know whatever it is. And then I find myself out and about.

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Nicole Morris: and then tired. And I just realized there's gonna be one day a week where it's about me, and I don't get like noise in my head and

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Nicole Morris: pull off and sidetrack and add something to my plate. So

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Nicole Morris: I used to do like Tuesdays, for instance, like Tuesdays, are my self care days. And like, I'm just gonna be at home. And it's only gonna be about me.

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Nicole Morris: It kind of doesn't work that way because things come up appointments whatever. So now I just try and pick a day that will work that week. I you know, on a Sunday, I'm like, what day can I set aside here? What day can I make work for

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Nicole Morris: that day this week. Yeah, this this week. It doesn't have to be the same day. But when can I? And if you don't have a full day, even like 2 h, just where one benefitting. But you, it's only about you.

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Tanya: Yeah, you need that time to like to breathe. And just I talked to to Ally Ambrose. We talked about this a couple of weeks ago, when I had her on actually go all the episode aired today. But yeah, you just need that time to be with self

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Nicole Morris: But time, if you. If you give yourself time, you can kind of find things that. Yeah, you need the quiet, though.

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Nicole Morris: yeah, so I don't know. I think like that self care day, or whatever you can fit in, is important. There's other things I do. I take vitamin specific to my body. I work with. Dr. Nicky, out here with aloha

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Nicole Morris: that my body calls for. So, for instance, like tumor, people say, Oh, it's so good for anti inflammatory. And this and that. Okay, that's cool. And I can go. And I can buy it. And I can put it in my body. But if my body doesn't need it, I'm just gonna pay it out.

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Nicole Morris: and put the things in my body that my my body needs not what, Tony, you know. So I love that I've started doing that. And I dropped that into my self care. Probably 3 years ago, 2 and a half years ago, I started working with her because

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Nicole Morris: Take what your body needs, not what everyone else is like pushing, you know, because you'll notice a difference. You know, I noticed when I started adding that routine into my self care

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Nicole Morris: 3 others fix on their own without taking a supplement. If that makes sense. Yeah, 6, 2 things and like 3 to 5 things will balance out. So now you've got, you know, anywhere from 5 to 8 things

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Nicole Morris: focusing on 2 or 3, if that makes sense, you know. Yes, it does. So I don't know. I highly recommend that. I found things out about my body. I had no idea.

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Nicole Morris: Just by like giving myself that little bit of self care to go and talk to someone about what I need in

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Nicole Morris: with a company called function. There's 2 elixirs.

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Nicole Morris: One is for energy, focus and libido, and they just release another one kana, which is almost like a legal form of mdma for people with like anxiety depression. It's a heart opener, chill kind of a chill thing relaxes you.

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Nicole Morris: I'll give you a couple of links that you can share with people. Yes, there's also this company called the Patch Company.

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Nicole Morris: or the Patch Brand. That's what it is.

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Nicole Morris: and they have they sell at target. They're on Amazon.

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Nicole Morris: you know, energy, one a sleep one. And it's like this little sticker that you just like put. I put mine on the inside of my arm, and it's a vitamin that like absorbs through your skin.

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Nicole Morris: I don't know. I just. I've like incorporated it into my self care. I love that

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Nicole Morris: come into my self care like something as simple as taking a magnesium bathic or a bath in general like that's normal, right? But once you have kids

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Nicole Morris: I love like there's some products that I love to use. And now no is one that I love. Oh, yes, is that? Do they make the essential oils, Yup, and have an unbelievable magnesium? So if you can get it sprouts. You can get it online, too. So I'll give you the link for that. It's a really good one.

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Nicole Morris:  another thing on self Care day. I like to read daily affirmations

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Nicole Morris: sometimes I don't get them in, and I just catch up, and I do them all on my self-care day, so I'll be doing that because I have not read one this week.

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Nicole Morris: Yeah, honestly, I don't. I don't know if I'm I'm not. I don't. I don't know if I'm I'm not. I'm not. I'm not. I'm not sure. If it's it's not. I don't know if they're gonna be able to do it.

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Nicole Morris: There's another thing that people are starting to drink a lot. Some people aren't aware of it. But cacao, it's almost like.

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Nicole Morris: It's a functional mushroom. Hot coco. Mix for sigmatic is a company that has one that I love, and it just like chills you out. I like that at night, and I always put it in my self care. Day. Yeah, it's like a center in hot chocolate.

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Nicole Morris: I'll give you links for all this? It's cool. It's like it reduces anxiety, stress. It relaxes the body, improve sleep. It's organic. It's vegan they have it in little packets so like you can take it with you. It's I don't know, relaxing a nice thing for self care.

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Nicole Morris: other small things for self care that I could recommend. Go for a walk, put a face mask on

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Nicole Morris: date yourself. Everyone always like laughs at me that I have no issue. Going out to like lunch or dinner by myself. I don't. I actually really enjoy it. I can sit there or my food scroll through my phone, read a book, whatever I don't know. I think that's important. I love that you do that.

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Nicole Morris: You do that that is so scary to me. I know people always say that to me, and I laugh so hard. So I think where it started. I mean, now it's kind of come a self care thing, because you know you cook and prep food and do all this stuff for your family, and I love to just go get a meal by myself where I don't have to worry. What this person's gonna want. So I just

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Nicole Morris: where it started was before kids when my husband was with the Washington redskins, who are now the commanders at the time.

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Nicole Morris: and I don't know in the beginning. I guess it was where they'd be like oh, how many! And I was just. I just made just a table for myself.

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Nicole Morris:  I guess my last thing that I would close out. I worked with a shaman out of it. Atlanta his name was Indy, and he was so great he does virtual sessions as well, so I can give information for that him, telling me when I was talking about that I needed to do more self care. After I became a mom

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Nicole Morris: and I was like, I'm here. What do you mean? Like? I am present. I'm like here with you. He's like, no like you need to do it for like 5 min without me, like you need to incorporate this into like self care. If you I would love for you to do it every day, and he said.

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Tanya: Yeah, just sit there and like, be in gratitude, too, right like for this breath, this more like we get to be alive today. It really is a gift.

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Nicole Morris: people when he said it that way, you know, people are like, oh, you need to be more attentive and slow down. And this and it's so that's fine. It sounds great. But when he said it like it's called present cause. It's a gift that's like, oh, I never even thought of that like

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Tanya: that makes so much sense. It is a gift, and I think that we need to.

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Nicole Morris: just ruminating on things that have already happened right? Or we're worried about the future. But all we really have is now

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Nicole Morris: correct. All we really have is now.

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Tanya: that's beautiful. Alright. I thank you so much, Nicole, for your time. And

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Tanya: hopefully we can have you back on. I just love to keep having keep having you as a regular guest on here, because you just have so much wisdom to share, and I think we all have a lot that we could learn

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Tanya: from you. And I just love getting to talk to you.

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Tanya: I want to wrap this episode up with a new segment that I've introduced called the Rapid fire Round. You'll be the third person that I've done this with so far. But it's just 5 questions we're going to go through real quick, and you just answer with the first

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Tanya: answer that comes to mind, are you up for it?

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Tanya: alright. So question number one is what self care, activity is something you absolutely prioritize and consider non-negotiable

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Tanya: And is there someone in your life whom you consider a role model and who inspires you.

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Tanya: I love that so much, and I want to take the time to pause

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Tanya: because I really do think that it is admirable and brave for you to say that

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Tanya: because we have been socialized to believe that if we make statements like that, or think too highly of ourselves.

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Tanya: then that makes us conceited or boastful. And I think this especially is true for girls and women in particular.

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Tanya: and you know what this does. It keeps us small.

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Tanya: We are sitting in a class, and we know the answer to the teacher's question, but we don't raise our hands because we're afraid of what others may think. And for me, I know self. Love has been something that I've struggled with for a very, very long time.

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Tanya: and I think a part of this is the idea that has been programmed for my childhood that it's not good to think highly of yourself. If you think highly of yourself, this means you're conceited, and it's not true. It's just not true.

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Tanya: And what happens is we lose our self worth. When we do this, we think we are never enough.

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Tanya: and then we think or speak about others who are doing the things that we want to do in life in a way that may put them down in order to boost up our own self worth.

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Tanya: So it's like you're looking for the flaws in other people in order for you to feel better about yourself.

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Tanya: But that's not what I want to do. Instead, let me be like I see you over there.

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Tanya: You are living a life in a way that I admire, and in a way that I aspire to be, and I wonder how you do it. I wonder how you got to that place?

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Tanya: and then we're all just being an inspiration to one another, to push fast our comfort zone and to keep improving and never stop improving. But I just love that you're showing yourself love like that. And perhaps more importantly, I think it's a great example for your kids showing them. It's okay to speak highly of yourself. It's okay to admire and be an inspiration to yourself as you should, because you are a child of God. Because

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Tanya: isn't that how we all want our children to think of themselves like. I'm always praying for my children to have confidence and be successful and happy, and the key piece to attaining all those things is loving yourself. Would you agree?

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Tanya: I would. I love that you said that I love that answer.

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Tanya: I think it's the best answer.

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Tanya: What's the best advice you've ever gotten?

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Nicole Morris: Hmm! Better to ask for forgiveness than ask for permission.

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Nicole Morris: when we're renovating or doing something like, do I have to ask someone about this? Or can I just do it, you know.

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Nicole Morris: Just do it, and that slows you down, too, if you're waiting for somebody else's permission to say all the time

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Nicole Morris: that if you push through hard times you don't allow yourself to process and feel and recover and heal. So I would say that that's the worst thing for someone to say.

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Nicole Morris: why don't you, instead of pushing through the hard times? Why don't you sit in that hard time?

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Nicole Morris: So let one bad day be one bad day. Life isn't sunshine all of the time. That's just the way it is.

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Nicole Morris: Hmm! You can't let one bad day or one bad moment hold so much power over you. We tend to shift our focus when bad things happen which is so heartbreaking, because when we do that we forget about all the beauty we have to be thankful for.

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Nicole Morris: Yeah, so true. And it's temporary. Everything is temporary. This this, too, shall pass.

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Nicole Morris: It's true, so

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Nicole Morris: don't get on a bad day. I don't know. I guess that's my mantra, like there's always tomorrow. and there is always tomorrow. Yeah, for dreams to come true.

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Tanya: That's from the root off the rendezvous reindeer. I don't know if anybody watch that growing up, but we've got Christmas movies playing. Now

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Nicole Morris: we're getting ready for Christmas over here, so we've got Christmas songs. Malia has the countdown on. She does it every morning. So we're at 40 days today.

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Tanya: Oh, my gosh, funny, alright awesome

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Tanya: plan for the stress.

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Nicole Morris: Yes,

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Tanya: alright, Nicole. Well, thank you again. So much for being here again for round 2, and I just wanna express my gratitude because

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Tanya: I know what it's like as a busy mom. And your time just means it means the world to me, you being here. And

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Tanya: yeah, I would just like to close out the show by saying, I hope that something that you heard today resonates with you and helps you

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Tanya: in your everyday life helps you feel less stressed and a little bit more calm, and bring some peace into your life. So I will close out the show there, and we will talk to you next week. Bye.